After years of staying up past midnight to watch “The Late Shows” and having to set a timer in order to fall asleep to the TV and background noise or taking Benadryl to put me to sleep, which I defiantly don’t recommend! I feel this may play a part in a lot of sensitivities I have now. Although my medical doctor said this was safe (almost 30 years ago) I know now that i needed to get to the root of the problem and deal with suppressed trauma that was causing me to protect myself with distractions in order not to deal with the deep-rooted pain that I wasn’t ready or willing to look at. The loss of my fiance at the time, Bill who was also the father of my eldest son (who also recently passed away) I never dealt with his loss, never really grieved so took pills to wake up and stimulate me (ephedrine fat burners) and pills to put me to sleep, little did I know the damage that I was doing, I may have also been dabbling with countless antidepressants at this time, which none of them helped, it took some time, maybe years till I knew I had to move past this and give up all that is harming me. little by little I knew with exercise, sunshine, walks or running outdoors in fresh air and adding yoga to the mix I was able to sleep better. Now, 30 years later, and the new distractions with cell phones and swapping doom scrolling on the phone for hemi sync, guided meditations, writing in a journal or reading, I feel I have mastered quality sleep.
To achieve deeper, more restorative REM sleep, it’s important to focus on both your physical environment and mental health. Here’s a holistic approach that combines lifestyle, environmental factors, and mindfulness:
1. Create a Sleep-Conducive Environment:
• Cool, Dark, and Quiet Room: The ideal sleep environment should be cool (around 60-67°F or 15-20°C), dark (using blackout curtains), and quiet. Consider using earplugs or a white noise machine if there’s background noise.
• Comfortable Bedding: Invest in a comfortable mattress, pillows, and sheets that suit your body’s needs. This prevents discomfort from interrupting sleep.
• Limit Light Exposure at Night: Minimize exposure to blue light from screens at least 1 hour before bed. Consider using blue-light-blocking glasses or apps to reduce blue light emissions on your devices.
2. Establish Consistent Sleep Habits:
• Go to Bed and Wake Up at the Same Time Daily: Consistency is key to regulating your circadian rhythm. Even on weekends, try to stick to your sleep schedule.
• Develop a Relaxing Bedtime Routine: Engage in calming activities like reading, journaling, meditation, or a warm bath to wind down.
• Avoid Stimulants: Limit caffeine, nicotine, and alcohol intake, especially in the afternoon and evening. These substances can disrupt your ability to enter deep REM sleep.
3. Optimize Your Nutrition:
• Avoid Heavy Meals Before Bed: Large meals can cause indigestion, which might affect your sleep. Aim to finish eating 2-3 hours before bedtime.
• Incorporate Sleep-Friendly Foods: Foods rich in magnesium (like leafy greens, nuts, seeds) and tryptophan (found in turkey, eggs, and dairy) can promote relaxation. You might also try a small snack containing complex carbs before bed.
• Stay Hydrated, But Not Overly: Drink enough water during the day but avoid drinking too much right before bed to prevent waking up for bathroom trips.
4. Manage Stress and Anxiety:
• Practice Mindfulness and Meditation: Techniques like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and mindfulness meditation can help calm your mind before sleep.
• Journaling: Writing down worries or stressful thoughts before bed can prevent them from interfering with your sleep.
• Yoga or Gentle Stretching: A short session of yoga or stretching before bed can help release tension and relax your muscles.
5. Exercise Regularly:
• Timing Matters: Aim to exercise at least 3-4 hours before bed, as vigorous physical activity too close to bedtime can increase adrenaline and hinder sleep onset.
• Regular Exercise for Better Sleep: Regular physical activity can help regulate your sleep cycles, reduce anxiety, and promote deeper sleep stages, including REM.
6. Sleep Supplements (When Needed):
• Melatonin: For some, a melatonin supplement (in small doses, around 0.5 to 1 mg) can help regulate sleep onset, especially for those with disrupted circadian rhythms.
• Magnesium or Glycine: Magnesium can help relax the body, and glycine (an amino acid) may improve sleep quality and depth.
• Herbal Teas: Chamomile, valerian root, and lemon balm are gentle herbs known for promoting relaxation.
7. Limit Naps:
• Avoid Long Daytime Naps: While naps can be refreshing, long naps (especially after 3 p.m.) can interfere with your ability to fall asleep at night, affecting REM sleep.
8. Address Sleep Disorders if Necessary:
• Sleep Apnea or Insomnia: If you’re still struggling with REM sleep despite these changes, consider consulting a healthcare professional. Sleep disorders like sleep apnea or insomnia can severely impact the depth of your sleep stages.
By combining these practices, you’re addressing both the body’s need for rest and the mind’s need for relaxation, which can help you enter deeper, restorative REM sleep.
